In a famous Seinfeld episode, George Costanza concludes that every instinct he has is wrong and decides to improve his life by simply doing the opposite. This starts with ordering a different sandwich, which leads to a date with a pretty girl and continues with splendid results.

What does this have to do with brands? To be clear, I am not directly comparing brands to socially awkward bachelors; but I do think they can learn from George. Traditional marketers are very smart, creative and scientific, yet in building our business, we have observed that many of the instincts that have guided the communications and advertising of big, successful brands, translate poorly into social media initiatives. Why is this? One reason is that brands are used to portraying themselves as shiny, larger than life entities that magically transform the lives of ordinary people. And when they come to social media, they attempt to continue this tone which has served them well for so long.

In more tangible terms (and I’m sure some of my social media agency compatriots can relate to this) we often have long discussions about the approval process for Tweet or how to avoid negative comments on blogs. These are not silly concerns; no brand should enter an arena and aspire to tarnish the reputation they have work long and hard to establish. Instead, I would argue, they are concerns that look at the problem incorrectly and reflect a desire to use social media to drive traffic without taking risks.

My prescription? Do the opposite. When your brand wants to avoid embarrassment, seek it out. Instead of approving every Tweet with a convoluted hierarchy, create simple guidelines and empower passionate employees to use their best judgment, despite (or perhaps, because of, the risk of mistakes).

This requires accepting a difficult paradox. For brands, becoming skillful within social media is comparable to going to a series of parties. Many want to do a lot of planning (this is good: you’d certainly want to make sure you went to the right parties, wore cool clothes, had meetings with interesting people, etc.).

But a traditional marketing mentality would make a critical mistake here. That mentality would tell you to identify your targets, hone your message and then deliver that message across various channels effectively. When does this go wrong? To use the party analogy, it goes wrong when chaos arises. You introduce yourself and someone asks a question for which you’re not prepared. Or you meet somebody and they invite you to a wonderful party not on the list. How do you adapt? Do you ignore them and go back to the game plan?

No. Remember, the plan was a guideline in the absence of perfect information. Instead, adapt, make friends and share your passion. You’ll win lots of fans and they’ll keep inviting you to new and better parties. And you’ll keep doing the opposite.

Writing in the wake of Facebook’s recent reversal of its Terms of Service update, Adweek’s Mike Shields quoted Reuben on how these kinds of negative reactions in online communities can be avoided.

Reuben urged platform operators to avoid presenting users with policy changes as faits accompli - people generally don’t like being caught by surprise in such matters.

Reuben explored this question in his most recent AdAge guest blog post…and given the complexity of the issue, it’s just a start.

MoU Creative Director Blair Erickson is passionate about the latest film in the long-running Batman franchise, this year’s critically-acclaimed “Dark Knight.” He’s so passionate, in fact, that he’s started an unofficial online campaign to support the film’s prospects for an Oscar.

The campaign has attracted enough attention to merit a write-up in PRWeek. The film’s got lots of fans here at MoU, and we’re happy to see Blair’s online community-building skills put towards a worthy cultural cause.

Our sister company Virtual Greats and its work with partners Gaia Online, Snoop Dogg and Elvis Presley Enterprises were surveyed in depth by the New York Times’ Stefanie Olsen today.

Forbes.com’s Mary Jane Irwin has just written a great piece on the growing prevalence and ease of accessing virtual worlds through the browser, citing executives from Millions of Us, Vivaty and Parks Associates, among others.