Is there a conversational intimacy hierarchy?
Monday, January 12th, 2009OK, here’s what I mean by this:
Have you ever gotten a Facebook email that someone sent that you only discovered 3 months after the fact? I have, and I often wonder, “Did they really want to speak to me, and if so, why didn’t they call on the phone”?
But I am also guilty here, though usually with a good degree of calculation. For example, I try to think about what my goal is, what the other person is doing and how to best communicate without wasting time. While still enjoying the other person (this is important, or we’d stop phoning or having meals together).
So here goes — my list, ranked in order from Most Intimate to Least Intimate
1. Face-to-Face (this works even better if the faces are being fed food)
2. Synchronous Video Chat like Skype
3. Asynchronous Video Chat like Seesmic
3. Realistic Virtual World with Avatar that Resembles You in Real Life
4. Facebook private conversations
5. Textual Microblog Social Networks like Twitter
6. Fantasy - oriented Virtual Worlds where you do not resemble yourself
7. Social Network public conversations (not including Twitter, Pownce and other microblogging)
8. Blog Comments
9. SMS
10. ESP
What do you think?
